Friday, May 30, 2014

Balance is a myth....

As women, we think we can do it all and we want to do it all, but can we really? No.
Frustrated, we ask "How do I balance everything?"

Here's the thing, balance is really a myth. There are seasons to life and sometimes some things will get more of your attention than others. You may go through a season where school is first, your career is the most important thing, starting a family is what your focused, and so on. Such is life - it comes in seasons.

I recently listened in on a segment from The Mom Conference that was really eye-opening to me. The author is an entrepreneur, time management coach, wife, mother of four small children and more and she said "The floors in my house get pretty sticky. The toilets in our bathrooms get pretty dirty before they get my attention." Her point was that we need to define what things we truly value, give those the most of our time, and let the other stuff go (at least for a little while). Maybe you value home-cooked, organic meals. Maybe you value fun crafts and adventures with your kids. Maybe you value physical fitness, spiritual growth, a spotless house, travel, quality family time, volunteering, etc. All these things are great, but we can't do everything, so pick your top five or six and let the other things slide.  Your top values may not be my top values, but that's ok.  We have to let ourselves off the hook and let each other off the hook as well. As they say, comparison is poison. We look at another women we know and think 'she's got it all together'. And, though she may have something you don't have - you don't know what she might have given up, that you have, to get it.
So, be honest with yourself and know when to say "no". I heard it said recently that "the right 'no' is better than the wrong 'yes.'" Y'all, I am preaching to myself on this too! We let guilt pressure us into taking on too many projects sometimes. We want to do everything and help everyone. But despite our best efforts, it’s just not possible to ‘do it all.’ Learning to say no effectively without guilt can help minimize your to-do list.

Another point this speaker mentioned was about defining and protecting your roles.  Most of us can only handle about 4-5 roles. Wife, mother, pastor, teacher, daughter, home manager, entrepreneur, chef, business-woman, student.... What are your top roles? Define them clearly and then protect them with your time. One of the most powerful things I heard her say, was that you have to clearly separate "mom" and "home manager." The home manager cleans, plans meals, does the grocery shopping, you know, runs the family. But, the mom reads a book, plays legos, goes to the school play, takes you to the park, etc. Sometimes, I find myself at home with my son, but doing all the home manager stuff. That's when I must put limits on my time and switch hats.

And finally, the thing that should have been first.... Your number one roll is you. We've got to take a few minutes each day to ground ourselves. My mom always says "You have to take care of yourself, so you can take care of others" and that really is true. Find something to do for yourself each day - take a bubble bath, go for a jog, journal, whatever it is you can do just for you.

I hope this helps you feel empowered and free. It's advice that I am learning from as well.

Let it go
Let it go.

Ten Tricks for staying productive with little kids.

For more information about the speaker I listened to and some of her resources check out

Friday, April 18, 2014

Playroom Progress

As Wrenly has grown so have the size of his toys. We soon realized we needed a playroom and fast. So, we are working on making our upstairs living space into a real deal playroom.

Here are a few playrooms I adore and am using for inspiration:

And, here's where we are so far:

Things I knew I wanted:

White to balance all the other colors and our black couch
Bright (but not obnoxious) pops of color
Toys (because duh, it's a playroom)
Grey striped wall(s)
fun faux taxidermy
mini gallery wall
vintage elements (as always)
Here's a few pictures I'm keeping in the back of my head as we move forward with the checklist:

striped walls

faux taxidermy

gallery wall

and everything above

Saturday, March 22, 2014

The Rodeo

Today is the last day of the Houston Livestock Show and Rodeo. This season in Houston is one of my favorites! I enjoy any Americana type event like a fair, a rodeo, a carnival, a zoo, an amusement park, a craft show, flea market, food festival... The Houston Rodeo is a little bit of all of that. It's good ol' fashion family fun complete with petting zoos, baby animal births, impulse-shopping, mutton-busting and fried any-kind-of-food.

Last week we took our little one, all his grandparents and my brother's family to the Rodeo. It was one of the most fun and memorable family days of my life. A perfect day really with my favorite people in the world. Here are a few highlights.


Thursday, March 6, 2014

It's about the Mix, not the Match

I am really into mixing prints right now! In my outfits, in Wrenly's outfits, in our home.... I can't put my finger on what it is that makes me love this so much I just do.

Mixing prints is one of those things that you think breaks the rules when in actuality it has a few rules of its own. If you're thinking about trying out this trend, here are a few things to keep in mind.

1. It's good to mix one large scale geometric with one small scale geometric and one floral.

2. Keep one color consistent from print to print.

For example: magenta/grey; magenta/white; chartreuse/white; chartreuse/grey/white....

3. There are a few neutrals that work with almost anything.

For example:
stripes in navy & white or black and white (and always leopard)


4. And, keep it in the same color values.

Use deep saturated tones with other deep saturated tones; pastels with pastels; etc.

Here and Here are a couple expert opinions for mixing patterns in your home. Enjoy!

Saturday, March 1, 2014

Finding your personal decor style (for now anyway)

What is your décor style? Have you ever been asked or asked yourself that?

Sure, there are the simple answers: "eclectic", "modern", "contemporary", "traditional", "farmhouse"...

Then, there are the more complicated answers: "modern rustic", "shabby chic", "farmhouse industrial", "new vintage", "earthy modern", "global fusion", "edgy Classic" and "I'm-overwhelmed"....

Ok, so I made up that last one, but it could be true. What do those names even mean? Who really cares? It's good to know what you like and, if you can, it might be nice to put a name on it, but don't feel like you need to be boxed in. There are no real "rules" and if there were, there are no real punishments for breaking them every now and then. And, your style is going to change as time goes on, so re-evaluate every so often.

Here are a few things I do or have done to help me identify my décor style and put it into action in my home.

1. Buy what you love.

If something stops you in your tracks and takes your breath away, you should probably get it. Does it cost a million bucks? Oh, ok, then don't get it but take a picture. Then, look for a more cost-effective option.

I believe that if you buy things you LOVE in colors you LOVE (and neutrals) then it will magically start coming together. It's just one of those things...

2. Start an inspiration board.

Whether it's through pinterest, or just good ol' fashioned magazine clippings, start collecting ideas you of décor and spaces that speak to you.

I like to pin a lot of pictures on pinterest where I love the whole room. That way, I can start to recognize patterns. You may notice a theme of color, or texture, or furniture style...the list goes on.

Here are a couple pictures I've pinned. See if you notice a pattern.

Take photos like this with you shopping. Or, photos of the room in your house that you are currently working on.
When you see something that you are considering purchasing but are one of those "But, where would I put it?" kind of people, then, check your photos. Brainstorm ways to try it out.

3. Just try it!

Go for it! Do it! Take a leap.

The Nester, a blogger that I love and draw inspiration from, once said "Your home is the safest place in the world for you, why wouldn't you take risks there?" (Or something along those lines).

Don't be afraid of failure. There are worse things in life than patching a bunch of nail holes because you didn't get "the perfect place" just right. And, the people you share your home with love you more than anyone else - and a wrong paint color isn't going to change that. It's an easy fix.

We shouldn't save all our good ideas for our "next house." And, I'd rather be in-progress in every room in my house than to never start anything for fear of 'messing it up.'

4. When all else fails, get some help.

Chances are you know someone who is good at stuff like this. And, chances are, if they're good at it - they love to do it. So, ask a friend to help you get your house updated, decorated or your style figured out.

If you have no friends good at it... well, hire a professional. There, I said it. :) If you can't hire a professional, call me. I'll come over for you, my friend.

Friday, February 7, 2014

Loving The House You're In

About six or eight months ago I got that "I need a new house" itch.

This Summer we will have been in our house five years, or is it six? Anyways, it's a sweet house, not our forever house, but a good one, with good neighbors... and we've begun to make it our own.

But still, with our human, materialistic nature, and the fact that I live in Texas where 'everything is bigger,' I got the ol' "I need a new house" itch.

And then, I read this article by Ashley over at The Handmade Home. (She is amazing. If you haven't read her blog, you must. She is super creative and inspiring.)

You see, I don't want to be materialistic. I don't want more house than I can afford. And, I love that I have chosen to be home with my little 15 month old while he's still little. And because of all that, I decided to love my house more.  Chuck and I have been (and will continue) doing a few simple and inexpensive updates around the house so we can love it more. We want to be good stewards of the house that God has given us so that one day, when the timing is right, He will trust us with more.

I love this quote:

If you have fallen out of love with the house you are in, or if you have that "itch," considering reading the following posts. They have totally changed my perspective and priorities.

10 Simple Ways to Love Your Home

Lessons I Learned by Staying Put

                                                                               our home

Monday, February 3, 2014

Three Things: a link-up with a friend

My good friend Lindsay over at Strickland & Co. features great finds every Tuesday in her Three Things posts. She asked me to make a guest appearance and I couldn't pass it up. Here are my "Three Things: Valentine's Edition!"

1. For him: a lapel flower for my guy who loves to dress-up.

2. For the home: a sweet downloadable print with a little Texas pride.

3. For the little one:  a mouse in a matchbox. Wrenly already has this sweet guy but I definitely recommend him or one of his cute relatives.